So, my cousin is one of those lawyers who works against gay marriage. That is actually his job. I obviously find this abhorrent. My question: how horrible of a person am I if I still invite him to my wedding? If I don’t invite him, I’ll be making a very conspicuous point. But it’s very possible he, his wife & children will cease contact with my branch of the family. (If it matters, it’s a heterosexual wedding, but gay guests will be there.)
Definitely send an invitation. They’re family, after all.
When your cousin (or more likely his wife) contacts you to ask where you’re registered, kindly inform them that you are accepting donations in lieu of wedding gifts to the Yes On Gay Marriage foundation.