On sapiosexuality

What do you do about someone who starts raving about how sapiosexuals are oppressed and part of the LGBT spectrum and are a real sexuality which should be respected too?  Because ranting back “intelligence is not a gender preference,” or “most of us consider a mental connection to just be a normal part of creating a close relationship,” or “holy shit you’re just straight, you are a dude who is only into chicks but is even more into yourself” obviously doesn’t go anywhere, and just gritting my teeth is really starting to wear out the enamel.


Sapiosexuality isn’t an orientation. At best, it’s a preference. At worst, it’s something you call yourself in a dating profile to seem more interesting.

It’s fine if you’re turned on by intelligence, but that has nothing to do with whether you’re LGBT or even Q. Only a magnificent asshole with a victim complex would try and claim they were oppressed as a sapiosexual, and you should feel free to point out the irony that no one with any intelligence would ever fuck somebody who says shit that stupid.


9 thoughts on “On sapiosexuality

  1. Colette says:

    Thaaaaaaaaaaaaaank you. Finally. This is something that’s been driving me crazy as well, but, like usual, you articulate it so fucking well.

  2. AlligatorO says:

    I was attacked once for using the term sapiosexual (yes, it was a drop down orientation option on okcupid) and it amazed me that someone could get so up in arms about it.

  3. :) says:

    Omg good thing you already got banned from tumblr 4 lyfe or someone would have a fit about this! It’s like a minefield now I’ve had people yell at me for talking about this exact thing.

  4. Ashley says:

    The term “sapiosexual” is supposed to be a tongue-in-cheek way to describe your partner preference, and anybody who uses it seriously is a fucking moron.

  5. Q. T. Getomov says:

    I would have thought that sapiosexuality was even less of an orientation or preference. If you don’t care what someone looks like so long as they can stimulate you mentally then surely that’s the opposite of a ‘thing’.
    If you can’t understand that, then you’re not for me! =o)

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