Advice

On what you’re owed.

I am soon to be finishing my degree, and I am in a similar situation as that person whose father makes a lot of money and now has a second family, but didn’t help at all with their education. I don’t feel like I’m owed anything, but I recently found out that he’s been telling our extended family that he has been paying for my education this whole time.

I’ve had to work really hard to get to where I am, and I am proud of what I have accomplished. My dad has been a deadbeat since he told my mom he didn’t think he wanted to have a kid anymore when I was 9, and I hate that now he is trying to get some of the credit for those accomplishments.

Is this something I should confront him on, or is it some resentment I should just try to work through on my own? Should I be correcting my aunts and uncles when they talk about the expense of my education to my dad?

Wow, your dad is a real piece of shit. That sucks.

Listen, he may not have owed you a college education, but he sure as fuck owes you the respect and recognition for having paid for it yourself.

By all means, confront your father. Confront the hell out of him. Make sure all your aunts and uncles know the truth about who paid for your education. He deserves to be embarrassed and humiliated for a lie like that.

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One thought on “On what you’re owed.

  1. Lo says:

    I am 80% sure he’s saying this because he supported any kids that may have come with the new family, and he wants your relatives to think he extended the same courtesy to you. He knows how mercilessly he would be shamed if they knew otherwise. I hope you fucked with him just as hard. That is the right that comes with paying it on your own.

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