How do you feel about cheating? Have you ever cheated on the person you were with?
I don’t cheat. Then again, being true and faithful in your relationship has no inherent connection to how many sexual partners you have.
If you’re interested in what I’ve written on monogamy and fidelity, click here.
I have a new interest in this guy in my Spanish class. Me and him are always scribbling away and drawing pictures instead of practicing hallway dialogue in a foreign language, and it’s obvious he has that creativity thing going which I just love. My life so far has been all hookups and friends with benefits, and I want this guy to notice me in a date-able way. We’ve talked and hung out alittle bit at school but aren’t close. Any advice?
Have you read my blog? You realize I’m a filthy coke whore who spends her nights getting fucked up in Hollywood clubs, right?
I’m probably not the best person to ask for advice on the artsy boy in Spanish class. The last time I passed someone a note in study hall your mom was still a virgin, and in my world if you want a guy to notice you in a date-able way, you give him a really good blowjob.
Seriously, I don’t mind it when teenagers ask me questions, but I’m not Judy fucking Blume.
I’m 16. I’ve been dating this guy for 10 months, but I can tell we’re going to last for at least a while. It’s not love, but who, at 16, even knows what love IS? I’ve never been addicted to any substance, but I had partaken in smoking weed about half a dozen times with a trustworthy girlfriend of mine, and he knows. Now, he is asking me to never smoke again, and never to drink, even though I have never been drunk, and the last time I smoked was months ago. Nothing happened to spark his demand this of me. He just decided. I have been wanting to smoke again with that friend, but I’m not sure how to confront him about it. I refuse to lie and act like it never happened after I have done it. What should I do?
He just decided? Excuse me, but where does he get off making decisions on your behalf?
Never smoke? Never drink? Fuck that guy. Never surrender your free will, and never put up with an ultimatum.
It’d be one thing if he had genuine concerns about your health or well being, but this sounds like some tight-ass moral objection to getting a little stoned. You don’t have to obey him. Simply tell him no.
You’re fucking sixteen years old. Boyfriends are fruit-flavored candy at that age. If he does anything but respect your wishes while following you around like a puppy dog, end the relationship so fast that his pointy little head spins.
Does playing hard-to-get (in order to get a guy) actually work?
Playing hard-to-get works on boys. Being hard-to-get works on men. In either case, don’t confuse hard with impossible.
how do you feel about anorexics?
Bless their hearts, but get them the fuck out of my life.
Not to sound overly harsh, but I’m not running a psych ward over here. Regardless of any compassion I might feel, people with psychiatric disorders need a clinical setting, and given the choice I prefer to surround myself with mental health instead of mental disease.
Last week, my grandma died. She basically raised me. What do I do? I’ve been ignoring it. Everyone at the funeral complimented on how poised I was, even while reading the eulogy, and I don’t want to lose my composure— it’s just not how I roll. I feel like it’s going to build up though. When I lost my grandpa, I was only 12, so my reaction was much different and more immediate then now (I’m seventeen, just started college.) Basically, I’m just afraid this is all going to slap me in the face. I don’t really have someone to really take care of me anymore, not that I’m completely on my own but still I feel like I lost my person. I know I probably seem immature, but I really don’t want to talk to my friends about it, because they’re kind of dumbfounded by the entire situation. So, I decided to ask a third party, who I won’t upset by talking about it and has something honest to say.
If your grandma’s death came as a shock, then you’re very likely still in the denial stage of the grieving process. If it was expected and you’d said your goodbyes, then you may have already reached acceptance.
I can’t quite tell, but since you’ve been ignoring it, I’m guessing that you weren’t emotionally prepared for her death. Given how close the two of you were and the fact that she was a maternal figure in your life, you’ve got some grieving to do.
Don’t fear it. Don’t worry about getting slapped in the face with grief. It’s part of the human condition, and it means you’re healing.
If you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation around other people where you are suddenly overwhelmed with emotion, just walk out of the room. Excuse yourself if necessary, but don’t ask permission. Just go. Find a private spot and let it out. Take all the time you need. Do whatever you need to do, and don’t let anyone else tell you how you should or shouldn’t feel right now.
Grief is a primal emotion. People recognize it, so you won’t have to explain yourself. If someone asks how you’re doing, just tell them you’re fine and let them off the hook. Your friends won’t know what to say, so get used to hearing the phrase, “I’m so sorry for your loss.” Just look them in the eye and thank them.
Also, get cozy with the notion that the holidays are going to suck this year. That’s a time when it’s really going to hit you hard. You won’t be in school, so feel free to use the holiday break to go a little crazy. It’s a good time to go off and lose your shit.
Eventually, the dazed feeling wears off. So will the anger, and so will the sadness.
What’s your view on bisexuals? Vanguard of the sexual revolution, or libidinous fence-sitters? Your thoughts humbly sought.
Gore Vidal said it best:
“There is no such thing as a homosexual or a heterosexual person. There are only homo — or heterosexual acts. Most people are a mixture of impulses if not practices.”
Do you think one month is too soon to fall in love? Or 2 months? 3 months? Is there a point where it’s just too soon? Or should I just pay more attention to my feelings and less to my calendar?
One month is long enough to be love stoned, but in love? Not unless you’re a silly teenager. Three intense months might do it, but it’d still be a raw emotion without the kind of shared life experience that really gets you there.
Ignore the calendar, but take your time.
I’m afraid I’ve killed my chances of being anyone’s dream girl. I crave perfection. I’m scared that it’s an odd obsession. How do I get as close to perfect as possible?
Wow. Your mother really fucked you up, huh?
Listen, Barbie. You’re an idiot for wishing to be someone’s dream girl, and all this stuff about perfection is just plain crazy talk.
Get a grip.
it seems i always have a thing for guys with other chicks, so my question is… is that bad? i can’t help it if i’m better looking then their girlfriends.
You can’t help being better looking, but you can help being a cunt. Don’t poach guys. It’s incredibly selfish and disrespectful. Do I need to remind you of the golden rule?
As hot as you think you are, there’s always somebody hotter. Would you want that bitch stealing your man?