A year ago, I was in a very healthy relationship, with a man I considered to be my best friend. We never argued, we shared the same thoughts on life, everything was great. Then suddenly, the sex stopped. We somehow got into the ‘friend zone’. So I did what I do best, I fucked it all up by sleeping with someone else. By the time I realized the error of my ways, I got caught. My boyfriend was so hurt, he moved to another state and only recently started responding to my text. Even when he does respond, most of his comments involve the word ‘whore’ and ‘bitch’. Is this a hopeless cause or is it worth trying to salvage?
You were never in a healthy relationship. You say you were, but you don’t even know what a healthy relationship is.
The sex stopped for a reason. You cheated for a reason. You got caught for a reason, and your boyfriend left you for a reason. The worst part is that you don’t have a fucking clue what the real reasons are.
Your boyfriend didn’t move to another state because of you. You didn’t cheat because the sex in your relationship suddenly stopped, and the sex sure as hell didn’t stop because things were so damned great.
You’re basically wrong about everything. I don’t have enough information to speculate about all your underlying issues, but one thing I am sure of is that this is definitely a hopeless cause.
Move the fuck on. Get some distance, try a little introspection, and learn as much from this mess as you can.