I (a woman) have been in a relationship with my partner (a woman) for three years. We have lived together for about a year. Lately, all we do is argue. We don’t have sex (not even make-up sex), and I get the vibe that she’s just not that interested anymore. Either in sex or conversation. She assures me, however, that this is not the case, and that it seems as if I’m the one who’s not interested.
I feel as if I am constantly explaining and justifying every tiny decision I make, which would strain any conversation – so at the moment, I do not enjoy talking with her. She is hardly ever in the mood to come out with me, and in turn gets angry when I choose not to come out with her and her friends.
I get along great with her family, and genuinely like her and for the most part enjoy being with her. But, she is incredibly stubborn, always wishes to get the last word in an argument, and generally doesn’t show respect for my decisions.
What the hell should I do? Rip the bandage off and just move on?
You managed to condense your whole relationship into three tight paragraphs without a single instance of the word love. Damn, girl. It’s obviously time for a change.
Who’s place is it? If you moved in with her, go get your own apartment. If it’s your home, do whatever you can to help her to find her own place. Either way, you’re done cohabitating for a while.
You don’t have to call it a break-up. Just call it a break. Separate and see what happens. Maybe you’ll both realize you miss each other and shit will heat up again. More likely you’ll both realize it’s best to call it quits and moving on will be that much easier.
Go find some fresh love. If she’s a part of it, great. If not, that’s okay too.