On hardening up.

My father hired a private investigator in order to prevent me from being with the man with whom I am in love because our relationship violates social norms. I’m not a minor, but I am financially dependent on my father. I don’t want to comply but he is paying for my tuition and literally everything else in my life. I don’t know how I could survive without his income, but I know there are ways and I am willing to do what it takes. My boyfriend thinks I should hang in there until I graduate even if it means we can’t see each other for over a year. I would most likely have to give up literally every material possession I own and  my continuing education but I would rather that than let myself be treated this way. Coke Talk, I feel violated and cornered and if this were a therapy session, I would tell you how fucking pissed I am for being unable to protect myself. Instead I want to ask you what you think. Does enduring the current injustices make me a spineless child or is it the smarter choice considering what I would be giving up?

So daddy’s little drama queen is dating outside her race again?

Sorry, princess. You won’t get any sympathy from me by whining about your insulated notions of injustice on MLK Day. You haven’t had to endure shit yet, but don’t worry. You will.

You’ve got an ugly choice to make. Fall in line or tell the money faucet to go fuck himself. It’s entirely up to you.

You’re gonna have to walk away from young love and harden up from the inside out, or you’re gonna have to walk away from financial stability and harden up from the outside in. Either way, your spineless childhood is coming to an end.

Make a conscious choice. Accept the consequences. That’s what adults do.

There is no right or wrong here, by the way. Not really. Romantic twits and heartless pragmatists would disagree, but the only wrong way to handle this would be to ignore the choice and let others decide on your behalf. That’s what children do.

Good luck with whichever way you go.


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