I’m currently a woman in my early/mid 20’s who is dating a man in his early 30’s who is ridiculously smart, funny, emotionally intelligent, sweet, and handsome. I haven’t felt this way about a person in a long time, honestly, and I could honestly see myself with this person in a long-term relationship. However, I’m afraid my parents, who are your typical old-school, traditional immigrants intent on marrying me off to a wealthy and successful man of my same ethnic background, would never approve due to his physical disability (he uses a wheelchair). Am I thinking too far into the future and needlessly worrying? Should I just keep dating this person and enjoy it for what it is?
Of course, keep dating this person. Enjoy yourself.
Off the top of my head, I can’t think of a better reason to tell your ignorant-ass parents to fuck right off with their regressive opinions about your life choices.
If they give you one ounce of shit over the fact that this man you care about is in a wheelchair, I encourage you as the daughter of typical, old-school, traditional immigrants to scare the hell out of them with the following argument:
“There will come a day when at least one of you will be physically disabled due to your old age. How would you like me to treat you then? When it’s your turn to be in a wheelchair, do you want a daughter who supports you, or do you want a daughter who resents you? Your hypocrisy will have consequences, so I recommend you be very careful with your disapproval.”