Over the past year, I pulled my shit together and lost 55 pounds. I’m a totally different person, and with my lifestyle change has come a new confidence. It wavers a lot, but I finally feel good about myself and how I look. I bought a bikini with confidence! Most of my friends are very supportive but 2 or 3 of them have been very off put by it. Telling me I’m too skinny, I need to eat more, I look unhealthy when all of those are very far from the truth. This is the strongest and healthiest I’ve ever felt in my life! These same people are also telling me that I seem cocky now, especially around men. I don’t want to become someone who is cocky based off what I look like. Is my pride about my weightloss/healthy life style becoming too much? Is my confidence turning into cockiness? How do I pull off talking about it without seeming like I’m gloating? It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and while I am ~loving~ the confidence, pride and yes, attention from the opposite sex it’s bringing me, I don’t want to come off as a conceited asshole. Thoughts or opinions?
Pay no mind to the two or three friends who will inevitably try and take you down a notch. There’s a few in every crew, and that kind of negativity is almost always a mix of petty envy and a projection of their own body issues. In other words, it’s an expression of their bullshit, not yours.
Never worry about too much confidence. Don’t even worry about a little cockiness. The only thing you need to watch out for is arrogance, and it doesn’t seem like you’re the type to think losing a few pounds makes you better than anybody else.
You’ve earned the right to a summer filled with bikinis and a little extra vanity. It’s okay to believe that you’ve improved yourself, and it’s okay to feel happy about it. That doesn’t make you a conceited asshole.
You look fucking amazing, by the way.
