On politics, manipulation, and job security.

Dear Coquette,

I’m tired of arguing with people on Rick Scott’s stupid decision to require drug testing for welfare in Florida. Can you give me a quick one-liner to help shut up some of these pointy-headed numnards? They don’t seem to get that it’s going to cost the government MORE money in clean-up if they do this, not less.

One-liners don’t change minds, and if all you want to do is shut up pointy-headed numnards, it’s probably better not to talk to them in the first place.

Life is too short to argue politics with idiots. That’s a bad habit, my friend, one you should quit. Don’t let stupidity (or Floridians) affect your blood pressure, or you’ll be sure to die an early death.

I had a biopsy to see if a lump inside one of my breasts continues to be benign. I told my boyfriend I had a rough day and wanted his support but didn’t tell him why. His response was that he was unavailable — he had a rough day at work and already made plans to meet up with a friend. He asked what was wrong. I told him but downplayed it. He responded with a few kind words. This was all done via text. (He’s not much of a phone person.) I then proceeded to get mad at him for not being there for me, but then again, I should have been more clear about the type of support I needed instead of making it seem like it wasn’t a big deal. My question is the following: I’m still slightly upset with the way he handled the situation, but then again, I didn’t do such a great job either. Also, we’ve only been dating for about three months, and I believe it might have been too early in the game to request this kind of support and reassurance from him. I’m thinking of just brushing this fight off and blaming it on my period, but I would still like to read your thoughts on this.

I think you’re a manipulative little twit who likes to test her boyfriend out of a shallow need for attention. You didn’t really need support from him. By downplaying and holding back information instead of being up front about your feelings, you were able to squeeze a few more hours of self-pity out of the afternoon.

You deliberately set your boyfriend up to fail, and that’s not being emotionally honest. Deep down, you know this. That’s why you wrote to me. You wanted justification for this kind of behavior, but I’m not gonna give it to you.

While we’re at it, don’t blame stuff like this on your period. That’s not cool. Take responsibility for your actions and have some integrity.

Should I break my back for a career in a field as competitive as broadcasting, or instead study some white-bread major that’s more likely to land me a secure job?

Job security is a myth, traditional broadcasting is dying a slow death, and no one cares what your major is.


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