I’m a nineteen year-old female college student. For the past three years, I’ve been getting more and more interested in feminism, and I love the liberation it offers. However, I feel like lately I’ve been a bit… TOO liberated. I’ve come out as bi recently, at the same time that my long-term relationship came to an end. I’ve embraced my sexuality fully, and as a result I’ve been having a lot of one-night stands and random hookups, and an exponential increase in sexual activity.
I feel like I’m becoming addicted to sex, but I’m not sure if I’m just confusing repressed guilt for compulsion. I enjoy sex, and I’ve never felt ashamed of it before, but my libido has gotten so out of control recently I don’t know what to do. I haven’t engaged in any overtly dangerous behavior, but I’m having trouble controlling myself. For instance, I recently solicited sex from a man I know I shouldn’t trust—he showed up drunk at my apartment a few weeks ago, refusing to leave and yelling in my face in front of my friend/roommate.
I’m just not sure if I have a serious problem or if I’m just trying to find an excuse for my promiscuity. What do you think?
Yeah. I can see you now, a liberated bisexual co-ed feminist recently out of a long-term relationship burning through your drunk dials at last call desperate to find some random cock to sit on before the dollar draft specials wear off.
What could possibly go wrong?
Listen, sister. There’s nothing inherently wrong with promiscuity, but it’s not the same thing as a lack of self control. Making stupid decisions that involve unsavory dudes is the shit you need to quit. You’re trying to find an excuse for your promiscuity when you should be trying to find an excuse for your stupidity.
Please understand, I’m not calling you stupid. I’m saying that you’ve confused promiscuous behavior with stupid behavior. You’ve also confused feminism with libertinism, but hey, one lesson at a time.
Oh, and by the way, you did not solicit sex. Don’t use that word, college girl. Solicitation has very specific legal implications, ones that you should most definitely avoid.