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On strap-on diplomacy.

Hey there, I’m writing to settle a dispute.

My girlfriend and I (we’re lesbians) have recently considered playing with a strap-on. She mentioned that she had one that she and an ex had bought together, but since my girlfriend paid for it, she kept it. I’m weirded out by using a strap-on she used on another girl! My girlfriend thinks that’s nonsense. What do you think, to reuse or buy new?

Okay. This is basic sex toy etiquette. If your partner is uncomfortable with a particular sex toy for any reason, don’t use it. Emotional discomfort is just as valid as physical discomfort. If the strap-on bothers you, she doesn’t get to fuck you with it. It’s that simple.

That being said, your girlfriend isn’t obligated to get rid of her old toy. All she has to do is downgrade it to souvenir status and stick it in a drawer. Common courtesy also dictates that since you’re the one who’s being picky, you’re the one who buys the new strap-on.

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