I’m afraid I’m never going to find anyone as good as my ex-boyfriend. He was abusive (emotionally, occasionally physically), manipulative, passive-aggressive, and we were terrible for each other, yet he still knows me better than anyone else in my life, and I don’t know how to change this or get past it. I’ve turned into one of those girls who constantly rejects ‘nice guys’. What do I do?
He knows you better than anyone else in your life? Bullshit. What does that even mean? You don’t know yourself, so how is it possible that he has a fucking clue?
Believe me, all he knows is how to press your buttons. He can manipulate you because you’re emotionally or intellectually weak, but that’s not a connection. That’s being fucked with.
He’s a predator and you’re easy prey. You’re a victim, and he can smell it on you. Hell, I could tell it with your first two words. That doesn’t mean I know you. It just means I know how to take advantage of you.
So yeah, quit being afraid. Have some fucking self respect. Don’t be a victim.
I know, it’s easier said than done, but put the time and effort in now before you get locked into a pattern of this hopeless crazy nonsense.