I’m a 19 year old bisexual college student in my junior year studying film. I’ve been dating a really sweet girl for almost six months now and I recently met an all-around amazing guy in one of my film courses. I’ve spent a lot of time with him this semester in and out of class and have a lot in common, get along unusually well and he’s more than fuckable.
He’s a straight 20 year-old (no problems there) but I’ve never been interested in dating a member of the opposite sex until now. It’s pretty obvious that he’s interested in me, we flirt constantly and have been spending more time together where it’s just us and not with a group of people.
This girl I’ve been dating is far more emotionally invested in the relationship than I am and to be frank, she’s not as interesting as I thought she was when we first started dating and I have been considering breaking up with her for a while.
I’m not a virgin in the “never had sex” sense, but I suppose I am in the physical sense. I’ve only dated two girls before the current one and those relationships didn’t last as long as this one, she’s the first one I was intimate with.
The point is, I’ve never fucked a guy before and he doesn’t know this. He doesn’t even know about my girlfriend. Should I tell him? Do you think that would weird him out at all? He’s pretty open minded, but I’m apprehensive. I don’t want to screw up with this guy.
A virgin coed who’s only had hot teenage lesbian sex? Don’t worry, sweetie. You’re the reason guys go to film school in the first place.
As general rule of thumb, your dates should be on a need-to-know basis with regard to all past sexual encounters. Unless this guy needs to know about your soon-to-be ex-girlfriend, don’t tell him. The same goes for your technical virginity. None of it’s any of his business.
Your sexual histories don’t really matter anyways. Intimacy isn’t about learning each others’ pasts. It’s about just being present in the moment and enjoying each other physically and emotionally.
By the time you start referring to this guy as your boyfriend, you’ll probably have told him about your bisexuality. For now, just concentrate on the butt-sniffing stage of the courtship ritual.
Oh, and have some respect for your current relationship. End it now, regardless of what happens with this guy. It’s not fair to string your girlfriend along any more than you already have.