I’ve written you a few times in the past, each time felt like a fucking life or death situation at the time, but looking back I can’t even remember what it was I asked.
I’m writing to you now because I’ve always thought of you as my badass therapist, and I need advice.
I’ve been in a monogamous lesbian relationship for over two years. I love her completely, and I’ve fought for our relationship many times. Recently, I’ve found myself attracted to men. One man in particular has me questioning my entire relationship. My girl intuited that I’ve been craving dick and gave me the go-ahead to have an open relationship. I know this isn’t what she really wants. But, she said she knows she can’t fulfill all my needs and she doesn’t want me to be unhappy.
I’m so tempted to tell her that’s what I want, but so fearful that I’ll break her heart by doing so. Meanwhile, all I can think about is him.
What the hell do I do?
She’s setting you up. It’s probably not malicious, but she’s handing you the long, hard rope you’ll use to hang yourself. That dick will be the end of your relationship.
I mean, shit. If you hop on it really fast, get the dick out of your system without getting emotionally involved with the guy, and if you’re completely honest about all of it with everyone, then there’s a slight chance your relationship might make it past your little dick season, but I doubt it.
It’s a tough call, and it wouldn’t be right for me to tell you what to do. Ultimately, you’re just gonna have to decide which decision you’ll regret less.