I live in Kalamazoo, Michigan. A month ago, a friend of mine called me needing help. He was crying and emotionally unbalanced because of shit going on with his estranged wife. I went to his house and hung out with him, listened to him, let him cry, etc. I also made him give me the guns that I knew he had. I brought those guns home with me, and I still have them. I am enraged and heartbroken about the shootings that happened in my town last night. I don’t think my friend should have his guns back. But they’re his property. Can you help me through this decision-making process, please? I’d feel enormously irresponsible giving him the guns. Thank you.
This is simpler than you think. First of all, the shootings that happened in your town last night should have absolutely nothing to do with your decision. Set that horrible shit aside and focus on your friend.
Now, all you have to do is answer one question. If you give your friend his guns back, do you believe he might use them to attempt to harm himself or others?
It’s a simple yes or no question, and if the answer is yes, tell your friend sorry, but he’s not getting the guns back. Furthermore, if you think that he’s a suicide risk, get the man some fucking help.
I mean it. This shit is no joke. If you were concerned enough to take his guns away in the first place, then you should be concerned enough to make sure your friend gets in a room with a mental health professional. Hell, at this point, you’re sort of obligated.
Tell him you’ll give him his guns back as soon as his future therapist calls you up and says it’s okay to return them.
Stick to your guns on this, even though they’re not your guns.