On internet boyfriends.

I have a friend who is in a relationship with someone on the internet. I wouldn’t even call it a relationship- but she does. They have never met, because he lives in another country. I feel like she’s getting too attached to an idea of the “perfect guy” not realizing that this man (if he even is a man) is just letting her see what he wants her to see. She makes him videos (without getting any in return), and they exchange emails discussing moving in together and falling in love. It’s bullshit to me and I feel like she’s making a huge mistake.

How do you feel about online romantic relationships? Am I overreacting?

You are not overreacting.

There’s a huge difference between signing up for eHarmony and burying yourself in an online prince charming fantasy.

Romantic relationships may start on the internet, but they can’t stay there. If your friend is talking about moving in together without ever having met the guy in real life, there’s some serious imbalance going on.

I don’t know. This could be some mild form of avoidant personality disorder, or she could just be acting really pathetic. I can’t blindly guess.

Either way, there’s a part of me that wants to remind you that if she’s not hurting anyone, it’s not really any of your business. You have to let people make their mistakes.


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