So I’ve got a mad crush on this girl who lives on my hall. We’ve been hanging out and stuff, probably to the point where she thinks I’m just her friend. And I’m bad at picking up signals, but I get the feeling that there could be something here. (This is coming from a guy with zero, zero, zero experience. But I’ve already complained about that for years. It’s time to make a change.)
We went to Harry Potter last night and blazed together. Unfortunently we were with a bigger group as well of mostly her friends so I couldn’t try anything. That sounds stupid to me because I have no idea what I’d ‘try’.
So what’s the best option for me right now as far as making the next move? Remember…I am a total loser who hasn’t had any experience with girls and somehow I made it to college a virgin, because I’m that cool. I’m not solely out for sex, though; I like her.
Dude. You’re fucking precious. I just wanna tussle your hair and pinch your cheeks and shit.
Listen up, this isn’t about “trying” anything. Don’t make this about your virginity. Nobody gives a fuck about your lack of experience except for you, and trust me, you’re surrounded by virgins.
I can’t tell you how to make a move here, kid. That shit is on you. Accept your vulnerability, accept the possibility of rejection, and then just be brave and fucking do it. Making a move is an organic, in-the-moment kinda thing, but I will say this, if you think there’s a romantic spark between you and this girl, you’re the one who’s gonna have to acknowledge it.
Be sweet about it. Be honest. Use whatever words or actions that come to you naturally in that moment of bravery, but the gist of it doesn’t have to be any more complicated than, “Hey, I like you, and I think you like me too. Here we go!”
Do it with a kiss. Do it with your own words. However you do it, get it fucking done. Don’t worry about what happens next. For better or worse, the heat of that moment will become self sustaining once you get it started, unless of course you fuck it up by overthinking shit.
Whatever. You’re gonna do what you’re gonna do.
Tell you what, though, you’re not a total loser. That much is for sure. You just need to get out of your own head. Quit complaining, and savor the experience you’re about to have.
Learning this shit is ten times more exciting than already knowing how to do it.
Fucking enjoy yourself.