My boyfriend has been friends with this girl since they were children. They dated once when they were much younger but she cheated on him and needless to say things didnâ€™t work out. She flirts with him in front of me and is passive-aggressively a bitch to me. I tell him this bothers me. He doesnâ€™t seem to notice her antics and claims Iâ€™m being jealous. I say I donâ€™t want to be around her so he thinks Iâ€™m tearing him away from his friends. I donâ€™t think he would ever cheat on me but I donâ€™t understand why there is this undying loyalty to this girl. What I really want to do is just backhand her to the ground. Does a situation like this cause for these measures or is there something else I can do?
If your instinct is to backhand her to the ground, the bitch is winning. Quit letting her get to you.
Recognize that youâ€™re feeling jealous. Admit that youâ€™re feeling threatened. Let that shit wash over you, and then let it go.
Just ignore her. Better yet, kill her with kindness and make a new frenemy. Beat her at her own game. It will impress your boyfriend and drive her crazy at the same time.
Remember, youâ€™re the one heâ€™s with now. Not her. As long as you donâ€™t let her get to you, youâ€™ve already won.