On my secret treasure

I’ve grown to appreciate when you take a mini-hiatus from your blog. Though I imagine it’s because you actually have a life to live, I secretly imagine it’s a challenge for us to actually apply the pearls of wisdom you frequently leave here.


I go on adventures. It’s in my nature. Sometimes I write about them, and sometimes they’re just for me. I haven’t decided which this will be, but so far it involves monkeys and waterfalls and healers and flowers and ancient ceremonies and so much profound happiness that I can barely contain myself.

I haven’t even gotten to the full moon party or the photoshoot, so you’ll forgive me if my attention is elsewhere for a few more days. Just know that I am in a wonderful place right now — spiritually, emotionally, and of course, geographically.

I’ll be back soon. You all know that. In the meantime, thanks for being a part of my life. I hope you know how much I appreciate everything that you share with me.

You are all my secret treasure.


53 thoughts on “On my secret treasure

  1. SOS says:

    This question/comment/observation was so apt! I just got back from Bali, and i know what you mean…
    So happy for you 🙂

  2. Lucy says:

    This is wonderful to read xo. Just curious, are you still writing (and planning to publish) that book you told us about a few months ago?

  3. Diggin says:

    If you’re still near central Bali, I’m just going to throw out some unsolicited Ubud food recommendations.

    Copper Kitchen restaurant is a little gem, attached to BismaEight hotel, with mind blowing food. I also feel that Fair Warung Bale is exactly your type of hang out, the doctor/owner has an incredible story to tell when you catch him after a late night dinner.

    Oh and wherever you may be, hope you have a wonderful time.

  4. CynicalGrey says:

    While working with the vine, I thought about you. Thank you for inspiring me to be a full on skeptic unafraid to jump right into that spiritual oceans of our inner world. you da besss

  5. Mil says:

    I just teared up a little bit. Life is a wonderful, painful, beautiful mess, and I will be forever grateful for this advice blog. Or rather secret treasure.

  6. j says:

    Hoping you’re still in SE Asia. Such a magical place. I love Bali – especially Canggu. Renting bikes, taking time away, not being at the computer. The food is fucking magical and everyone is so kind. It’s a powerful part of the world.

  7. colonel fabien says:

    “monkeys and waterfalls and healers and flowers and ancient ceremonies”
    Strikes me as surprisingly New Age-y for you Coquette.
    But what the hell, why not ?
    I’ve been thinking a lot about how a person from 5 years ago isn’t actually the same person as the today person. And wondering how the persistence of our virtual identities impedes our ability to leave the “old-self” behind as a vague memory and embrace future selves. Coquette is quite a counter example to that last claim as a persistent virtual alter ego that presents change and growth without shame or regret. (At least I tend to see it like that. It could be exceptional skill in tying up a narrative. I need at least a couple more hours to dedicate to the problem of renewal of identity and virtual logs of identity.)

  8. Rega says:

    “monkeys and waterfalls and healers and flowers and ancient ceremonies”
    Also I’m mentally revising the demographics of Coquette’s readership to be overwhelmingly white, rather than just skewed-white.

        • Gaybeard says:

          Let’s not embrace SJW as a pejorative term. Coquette using it once in an offhand way shouldn’t be taken as permission to start casually using a term that’s mostly thrown around by MRA assholes, Gamergaters and regressive dipshits to criticize people who are (in theory) anti-racist and pro-equality.

          Social Justice Warrior is also an amazing social label. Why would being a warrior for social justice be a bad thing? Using that term pejoratively just makes the people who created it look like huge fascists (which is pretty funny). Enemies of social progressives have just given them the coolest name ever, why squander it by letting it become unanimously pejorative?

          • Rainbowpony says:

            Eh, I’m a progressive feminist liberal, and I use SJW all the time. We need a way to call out righteousness because it can get outta hand.

          • Gaybeard says:

            Tell me that progressive feminist liberal sounds better than Social Justice Warrior though. That’s all I’m really saying. It’s a cool name.

          • Brynn says:

            Or you can just enamor yourself with the absurdity of the phrase in all of its contexts by using a word replacer plug-in to change SJW to spooky skeleton.

            I also recommend changing millennial to snake person.

    • Lin says:


      Maybe I’m just a miserable fuck who doesn’t feel joy anymore, but that sounded like some Eat, Pray, Love shit.

    • VeryOff says:

      Just out of curiosity…what, about any of those things, has a racial bias? I mean, do you think those things aren’t seen, experienced, enjoyed or even read about by people of color?

      I mean, I thought I was the king of connecting the wrong dots, but noooo, I can’t even have that achievement to myself.

      Please come back Cqt, I need my patience battery recharged and reading your posts is like hot tea.

  9. cichlidhead says:

    We love you too, Coke! Well, most of us anyways. And as for the rest….fuck ’em if they can’t take a joke!

  10. Ellie says:

    This is wonderful. May I borrow some of this? Your energy, I mean. Working on maintaining my own; I’m navigating the second act of a wannabe-debilitating depressive episode. Your impression in my life has been profound and healing. Always selfishly reassuring when you are on the receiving end. Thank you.

  11. Helen Jenkins says:

    Most wonderful you, I am smiling with joy. You are all the love and I’m glad the universe is reflecting it back to you. Have the most wonderful time.

  12. VeryOff says:

    Don’t come back…this election shit is a dumpster fire buffet of feverish proportions.

    Stay as long as you can.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *