So between 2005-2008 I lost about 90 pounds (with exercise and decent eating habits) and have managed to keep it off so far. The problem is that now I have two things that bug the everliving shit out of me: a ton of extra skin and saggy tits.
Instead of bitching about it forever, I got off my ass and talked to a plastic surgeon about what could possibly be done. He said I’m an excellent candidate, but the surgeries would probably come to about $17,000, which is a little bit prohibitive. I did some calculations and it would take me about 3 years to save up that amount of money.
In the meantime, however, I would really like to be getting laid, but my confidence about it is not so great because I’m afraid that dudes will turn tail when they see what I’ve got going on. Is it worth it to save up the funds to get my shit fixed or should I just say fuck it and go for the gold anyway?
Congratulations on the healthy weight loss.
You should definitely save up for the surgery. It’ll be excellent motivation to keep the weight off over the next three years, and if you start acting like it’s a foregone conclusion, it could actually help your self-confidence as you near your goal.
One thing to consider, though. Elective surgery prices are really low right now. A quote from a plastic surgeon is normally good for six months, a year at most. In three years, we’ll be on the other side of this shitty economy, and your doctor will be asking for an extra five grand for the same procedures.
Ask your guy to lock in the quote for three years. Explain that you’re saving up for the procedures. He’ll try to sell you on financing, but insist that you won’t go into debt.
Have him put the three year quote in writing. Trust me, it’s not to much to ask.
As for you confidence issues, what can I say? Start buying corsets and fuck with the lights off. Hell, every woman on the planet has body issues. Most of us still manage to get laid at our discretion.
Good luck with everything.
(Oh, and just so you know, I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed in the hopes that you find a guy who loves you for who you are, and in three years you spend the money on a trip around the world. Fuck it. Everybody loves a happy ending.)