I’m 19 years old and my parents are two people who never should have been married in the first place. They’ve been divorced for over 15 years now but I’ve spent my whole life as their tool for getting back at each other over petty shit. Now, as an adult, what is the most respectful way to tell my two financial providers to suck it up and stop channeling their frustrations at each other through me?
Don’t tell them to stop channeling their frustrations through you. Simply stop being a channel. Do not allow yourself to be a conductor of their negativity. You’re an adult (kind of.) You are responsible for your own behavior, and you don’t have to participate in their bullshit.
It will eventually manifest in words. You’ll end up telling them to back the fuck off in your own way, but the words themselves will be less important than the fact that you’ll be emotionally standing your ground.
This isn’t something you say. It’s something you do.