I’ve found myself dating a woman who does not party and isn’t terribly friendly to the ideals of those who like to get down. Do you think this kind of thing can work out long term?
Sure. Especially in the long term, because after a while you won’t even notice that your balls are missing.
The trick is ignoring the pain of your castration in the short term.
Aside from drugs and sex what activities would you recommend for a girl in her twenties with an interest in mind-expansion?
Get a passport. Use it as often as possible. Read. Books, that is. Ones without pictures. Surround yourself with brilliant and fascinating people. Say yes whenever you can, except to religion and authority. Create things. Fall in and out of love. Never forget that you will die one day.
One drunken night a friend and I hooked up. Knowing about his track record and how he talks about his sexcapades I figured our friendship would be fine. Our once long, fun, interesting conversations don’t exsist any more. We’ve never been really close, but we have been (like I said) friends for a little over two years. He rarely talks to me now and can’t look me in the eye anymore. I was just wondering if you could articulate what you think his deal is.
He’s a boy, not a man. Not a big deal, really. He’s just not ready to handle a friendship with benefits.
A bit of his male ego is at stake now that you’ve hooked up, and he’s probably a bit confused about his feelings for you. That’s what’s leading to the avoidance behavior.
If you want to salvage the fun stuff, you’ll need to explicitly tell him what to expect in this kind of situation. Spell it out for him. Keep it playful.
The kid needs a fucking map, so do him a favor and just tell him what to feel. Once you guys get comfortable again, you can take off the training wheels.
My boyfriend and I are experimenting with different kinds of lubricant. Which kinds would you recommend?
Astroglide is fine, but if you’re ready to move beyond grocery store lube, there’s no better brand than Sliquid.
My personal favorite is Sliquid Silk, because it’s a best-of-both-worlds blend of both water-based and silicone lubricant.
what are your tips for a perfect pussy, without waxing? i ask you because i feel like you would know.
You have to be clean. More than that. You have to want to be clean. All the time.
Shave everything. I use a man razor. A fucking Mach3 Turbo. Fuck that Venus shit, and don’t even talk to me about disposable razors.
Use lotion. Never be without lotion. Keep it with you at all times. You carry chapstick, don’t you? Those aren’t the only lips you need to keep moisturized. If you’re curious about my situation, I’ve got a tube of Love Shack by Gap Body in my purse right now.
If you’re partying, pay special attention to your pussy. Your body excretes all kinds of funky chemicals when you do drugs, none of which enhance flavor or aroma. Again, lotion is a must.
Shower whenever you can. Change your underwear whenever you can. Keep that shit fresh. Never go out without a spare pair at the ready. In fact, you can’t ever leave the house thinking your not going to get some. You never know.
The guy I’m currently dating broke up with his girlfriend and started dating me less than a week after. I don’t know if he dumped her FOR me, but that’s besides the point. The point is that the psycho bitch has resurfaced after a month and a half of silence by calling and saying things like “I want you to push me up against a wall and fuck me” (which is interesting because for the whole of their year and a half long relationship she refused to have sex with him once) binge-drinking and popping pills she can’t even pronounce then contacting him at three in the morning claiming that she wants to stop and that he’s the only one that can convince her to do so. It’s destroying him (he feels responsible for her well-being, and feels wholeheartedly that no one else can help her but him) and starting to get really upsetting (it’s been two weeks.)
What can I possibly do? I know this qualifies as emotional blackmail (which you are firmly set AGAINST, with reason) and besides being “supportive”, patting him on the back telling him that he won’t have to hold back her hair while she pukes up her pharmacy cabinet for long and just generally feeling useless, I can’t seem to think of a solution. Being “firm” with him and telling him to ignore her isn’t an option, he’ll get upset. And fuck, I really like this guy and he really seems to like me, but his take on the whole situation is to deal with it until it blows over and then he can be with me without the added baggage of crazy.
Your advice, please?
Does this bag of crazy have parents? If so, that’s your ticket to freedom.
As with all blackmail, the only real solution is to report it to the authorities. Emotional blackmail is no different, and in this case, the authority is her parents.
You have to convince your boyfriend to 411 her folks, call them up, and hand off the responsibility he still feels for her welfare. He needs to tell them something like, “I care about your daughter, but she can’t be in my life anymore. She needs help, but I can’t be the one to do it. As her parents, you need to step in and take care of her.”
It might be a tough sell, because it sounds like they had a co-dependent relationship. Your boyfriend is used to thinking he’s the only one in the world who can help her. Well, he’s not. Shatter that myth. Parents are a far more appropriate source of support than an ex-boyfriend, and he needs to see that.
If you play your cards right, your boyfriend will feel like he did the right thing by not abandoning his ex, and she’ll stop turning to him if she thinks he’ll call her parents every time she looses control.
Good luck.
What made you want to start giving advice?
I don’t know. I guess I’m just a nosey cunt.
What are your tips for getting into a good college?
Have wealthy parents.
Coke Talk, what would it be like to fuck you?
Oh hey, Tiger Woods.
Are there many differences from you and the girls on The Hills?
Sure. When asked to be on a reality show, I said no.
I think I love you…
Put a ring on it.
what turns you on the most if you don’t mind me asking?
A guy who’s smarter than me.
I’m a little high. I have a question but it sounds so retarded. What do I do?
Puff, puff, give.
what to do when it’s time to go to sleep after a night of partying?
Ambien.
Moving in together yay or nay?
Both.
Virginity. Tell him or fake it?
Both.
why can’t he make me orgasm?
Maybe your pussy is broken.
Nicknames for your tits? Mine are Mary Kate and Ashley.
Snooki and Jwow.
What are you thoughts on psychics?
What are your thoughts on unicorns?
your drug resume?
It’s more of a menu.
I was nearly raped a while back. He got on top of me, hurt me and tried to push himself inside me, but I fought him off before it got much worse.
I had a partner at the time (Who I am still with) and my problem is this: I’m terrified of sex now. Kissing and touching is fine, but when it moves beyond a certain point I freeze up and become unresponsive.
I’m not sure what to do. I hate that I’ve been affected so much by something that wasn’t even technically rape by a random creep. It makes me guilty because I know my boyfriend hasn’t done anything bad, and yet he suffers the brunt of my issues. I can tell the lack of sex is driving him nuts. It’s doing me in too. I want to get back on top (Pun not intended). Not just for him, but for myself too.
Your advice, please? (And thank you)
Seek treatment for post traumatic stress disorder. The sooner the better.
Don’t get caught up in whether it was “technically rape.” You were the victim of a violent sexual assault, and the psychological ramifications are very real.
You have no reason to feel guilty. This isn’t your fault, and you deserve to get better. I hate to say that I’ve been there, but I know what I’m talking about when I say that PTSD treatment works. It really speeds up the healing process. Go get some help.
Hey. I feel really dumb asking this. I just don’t know where else to get opinions. OK. So. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. We loved eachother in the begining. Everything was great. But now, i just feel like the relationship has died, and we just keep dragging it on when in reality there’s nothing left. we just fightandfightandfight, and fake being happy. And I’m just sick of it. I broke it off with him a few months ago, and then we got back together because i felt bad for him. He told me he was oging to kill himself. i don’t know what to do. I want to be happy and live my life, and not feel trapped, but he’s stopping me. And I don’t know how to fix this.
sorry that’s so long.
Not long at all, actually. Quite to the point. I’ll be equally brief.
Break up with him immediately.
Never put up with emotional blackmail. He’s not going to kill himself. In fact, fuck him for saying that to you. His emotional state is not your responsibility. You don’t have to fix anything.
Just cut him out of your life.
i have large labia. but only on one side, the other looks perfectly nice. what’s wrong with my vagina. it’s putting me off having sex with my boyfriend.
I’m just imagining your gynecologist as that small town doctor from Forrest Gump. “Well my dear, your vagina is strong, but your labia is as crooked as a politician! We’re gon’ fit you with a set of these here pussy braces and fix you right up.”
Seriously, though. You’re fine. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. Your shit’s just a little lopsided is all. It’s really no big deal, and I promise your boyfriend won’t care.
If it really bothers you, there’s always labiaplasty.