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On fun-sized advice

What would you like to be doing when your 65?
My nails. Yoga. Younger men.

What’s wrong with having a life partner?
Nothing. I’m all for it, but let’s please make a distinction between the institution of marriage and what it means to have a life partner.

Why is tradition important?
History is important, and tradition is applied history. (Of course, that’s not to say you can’t interpret and/or write your own history.)

Why does everyone assume you’re white?
I guess I seem pretty white.

The days when I do want to live, I don’t know where to start. What do I do?
Start by making your bed.

There needs to be a word to express a feeling of admiration that you have for someone because they’ve done something cool/fun/interesting that you also wish you could do. Like envy, but without the resentment. Does such a word exist?
Pretty sure the word you’re looking for is esteem.

Has this decade’s culture been an improvement over the 00’s?
Too early to tell. In fact, I think this decade will be defined by uncertainty. The art will be good, but the politics will be brutal.

I used to love giving head. I’m still happy to do it for him, but it’s not fun for me anymore. What’s up with that??
If his dick was Candy Crush, you’d be on level 455. That’s why it’s not fun anymore. It’s a puzzle that you’ve already solved.

Are you this sardonic in person? Do you get along with children?
I get along with cool people of any age.

How do you shut a bunch of slut shaming bitches up?
Leftover bondage tape.

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On your nazi acquaintances

I am a Jewish woman, with family who were killed in the Holocaust. I recently travelled to visit two of my close friends, and to see the country that they are from. While I was there visiting, I realised that some of their friends they were introducing to me are Nazis. I am ashamed to say that I didn’t say anything while there, and held my tongue until later where I confronted my friends. They admitted that they have many friends who are Nazis, but that they don’t see it as a problem. I don’t know what to think, am I being to sensitive? I haven’t spoken to my friends since I returned home, how can they condone such behaviour?!

Based on the way you write, I’m guessing you’re from somewhere in the UK, and so your trip was probably to Continental Europe, which is to say that you’re not talking about a couple of redneck white power douchebags. When you say Nazis, you mean actual fucking Nazis. Real live “Sieg Heil” motherfuckers.

Ugh, that’s so creepy.

Do I really have to say it? It’s not okay to associate with Nazis. If there are people you know who “have many friends who are Nazis,” and “don’t see it as a problem,” then those people simply can’t be in your life anymore.

Sorry. You gotta draw the line somewhere, and fucking around with Nazis is a pretty obvious place to start.

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On exploitation

Is it not racist/sexist to assume that the black women in Lily Allen’s video had no choice and were being exploited? Are we assuming they’re oblivious too? They didn’t seem like they had a problem with it.


Had no choice? No, no. You’re misunderstanding the concept of exploitation in the context of media.

It’s not that the women in Lily Allen’s video were forced to perform against their will. They were free to enter into a contract and be compensated for their work, but then again, it’s not their labor as black women that’s being exploited (although I suppose that argument could be made.)

It’s their image as black women that’s being exploited. It’s a cultural and sexual exploitation that’s going on here, and no, we’re not assuming they’re oblivious to it. That would be condescending as hell.

Still, whether they themselves have a problem with it is somewhat beside the point. Their awareness and consent doesn’t negate the underlying exploitation.

Also, let’s not go too far down the rabbit hole here. It’s not as though Lily Allen committed some fresh and horrible crime. She merely made some poor creative decisions that were unintentionally racist and sexist while remaining oblivious to her white privilege and therefore unapologetic for the exploitation.

This kind of shit happens all the time. That’s kind of the point. It’s all a big hideous cliché.

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On running a business

What would be your rules, regardless of what kind of business you were going to start, on running that business?

Never give up controlling interest.

Never take on a partner who doesn’t have skin in the game.

Always be the one who signs the checks.

Always be the one who maintains the key business relationships.

Always draw a hard line between business and personal relationships.

Always use contracts, and document everything.

Never give the government a reason to look at you.

Always be prepared for either a lawsuit or an audit.

Always know your numbers. No one should ever be more familiar with the general ledger than you.

Never forget why you are in business.

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On grand theft auto

Speaking of parody vs satire… Any thoughts on GTA 5 and if it’s satirical or not?


Grand Theft Auto V is both parody and satire. On a narrative level, it’s an amalgamated parody of an entire genre of crime fiction, but on a thematic level, it’s a searing satire of contemporary American culture.

Likewise, the city of Los Santos is meant to be a parody of Los Angeles when taken as a whole, but at a granular level, the memetic elements of the Los Santos universe (the various objects, characters, landmarks, and institutions) interact and behave in ways that are satirical.

Normally I’m not one for video games, but I was sort of fascinated by GTA 5 as a culturally significant document. The ability to explore an open world version of Los Angeles was more fun than I ever thought it could be, and I was surprised to find how well-written and complex the game’s narrative and environment actually was.

That being said, please know that I am fully aware the game is brutally violent and eye-rollingly misogynistic. Duh. I’m not apologizing for the game’s obvious shortcomings, but I will give it credit where credit is due.

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On lily allen’s white privilege

Lily Allen’s Hard Out Here: satire or racism? (As – I gather – a white woman you of course have no business answering that question, but you acknowledge you have no business answering any of these questions, so.)


Yes, well. It’s definitely not satire, and it’s most certainly racist, but let’s set the socio-political critique aside for a moment and focus on something a little more fundamental: This is a terrible song.

It’s just bad music, aesthetically. Whoever produced this track should be dragged out of the studio and beaten over the head with whatever Casio keyboard he stole the sample from. The song is a derivative, auto-tuned mess with unpleasant instrumentation, no discernible melody, and lyrics that could have been written by a teenager.

(Come to think of it, the last album written by a teenager was fucking amazing, so for all of you giving Lorde shit for her subject matter, consider how much more depth and poetry she brought to the table when compared to this stupid, one-dimensional single.)

Honestly, I’ve seen better YouTube parodies than this piece of shit video, and everyone involved should be ashamed of themselves for sucking so badly.

That’s another thing. This video isn’t satire. It’s low-grade parody. It’s just a clownish impression of a genre. Sure, it tries to poke fun, but you can’t satirize booty-and-bling videos simply by making a bad one.

Lily Allen’s intentions may be tongue-in-cheek, and she may claim to be taking a counter-position to other white artists who would unironically accessorize with hypersexualized black women, but she fails at this. The irony is lost, and she is just as guilty of exploiting black female bodies as Miley Cyrus.

Yep, she really fucked this one up. Lily remains oblivious to her white privilege and unapologetic for her creative choices. Meanwhile, she’s guilty of the exact same sexist and racist bullshit she claims to be indicting, and the fact that her lyrics would seem to suggest otherwise is merely an unintentional irony.

Sorry, Lily. You don’t get credit for good intentions with shit like this.

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On even more cities

Palo Alto?
Palo Alto isn’t a city. It’s a suburb that won the lottery.

Sacramento?
Sacramento is the most self-deprecating state capital in the country. Everyone I’ve ever met from Sacramento has been super cool, and yet no one seems proud to be from there.

What about San Diego?
San Diego is an ignorant douche-bro in a backwards baseball cap who deserves to get stabbed in the face by Tijuana.

What about Salt Lake City?
Salt Lake City is that girl in church camp who everyone thinks is a goody-two-shoes, but secretly smokes cigarettes and gives blowjobs behind the cafeteria.

Savannah, GA
Savannah is a spoiled little rich girl who calls herself an artist and thinks she’s being rebellious by dating a black guy.

Portland?
Portland feels like cheating, like it would be too easy to live a happy and healthy life surrounded by quirky and intelligent people.

I hesitate to ask: Omaha, NE?
It’s a little known fact, but much like the Vatican in Rome, Omaha is actually a sovereign city-state ruled by Warren Buffett.

Come on, darlin. Tell me about Vermont.
I love Vermont. It’s my secret fantasy to move there one day. You think I’m joking, but I’m not.

Paris is the only city.
Obviously.

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On a few more cites

Thoughts on Vegas?
Vegas is a prostitute who wears too much make-up. If you know the right locals, she can be a hooker with a heart of gold, but still, you’ll always have to leave your money on the nightstand.


Dare I ask: Atlanta.

I’ve said it before, Atlanta is a gaudy label whore who knows how to have a good time. I like Atlanta. It’s the unofficial capital of the south, and far and away the best Real Housewives franchise.


Dallas! How do you feel about Dallas?

Dallas is a bipolar trophy wife who secretly voted for Obama, partly so she could feel sophisticated, partly out of white guilt, but mostly just to spite her rich republican husband.


What about Houston?

When people talk shit about Texas, what they’re really talking shit about is Houston.


Tampa?

If Florida is America’s penis, Tampa is America’s raging case of herpes.


What about Miami?

Miami is not America. Miami is the VIP section of Cuba.


What about places in Connecticut?

There’s nothing in Connecticut but insurance companies and Yale.


What about Kansas City?

Which one?


I’m honestly wondering how long you’ll keep reviewing cities before you start snarking all over us for continuing to ask. Let’s try Rochester, NY?

You probably don’t want me snarking all over you when the only thing your town is known for is something called a “red hot garbage plate.”


Are we just doing American cities? What about Toronto? We gave the world Drake!

Yeah, thanks. You can have him back.


You are so terribly fuckin’ wrong. You are what is known as a “Cunt”. Cunt.

You are definitely from Chicago.

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On some other cities

I’ll ask. Thoughts on New Orleans?
New Orleans is a filthy pile of hot sex and shit. Everything there is thick. The air. The women. The patois. Just thinking of that city makes me want to get fucked on a balcony. The rest of America doesn’t deserve New Orleans.

What about Austin?
Austin is like a hot guy, but a hot guy who’s only hot when he lets his beard grow out, and that’s great for a one night stand, but if you ever had a long term thing you’d always be forced to choose between dealing with his prickly whiskers or him not being as hot.

What about Boston?
Boston is a city with a rich and important history, but until those people learn how to pronounce the letter R, I really can’t have anything to do with it.

philadelphia?!?
I will admit, your cheese steaks are delicious, but other than that, I’ve always wondered what you guys were so damned proud of.

What do you think of North Carolina?
Charlotte is a sprawling suburban nightmare of homogenized American mediocrity, but Asheville is quite lovely.

As long as you’re talking cities, what about Phoenix?
Phoenix is a desert hellscape filled with angry, dehydrated republicans.

What about New Mexico?
I hear your meth is fantastic.

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On maine

I know you might be getting a bunch of ‘but what about such and such a place??’ questions, but I’ve got to ask mine.. what about Maine? I’ve got my heart on my sleeve for York County, myself. Especially Wells. I’m a young adult, and from what I hear I’m supposed to live in a city, especially since I can’t drive. But Wells is where my heart is, can’t help it.

I picked blueberries in Maine once as a child. It was the first time I’d ever seen a rocky beach. I thought it was beautiful, and I felt like for the first time I understood the difference between the ocean and the sea.

I remember Maine as something muted and pale, but ultimately pleasant, sort of like walking through an Andrew Wyeth painting. That’s it, really. Everything else I know about Maine I learned from Stephen King books.

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